Coping With Mother’s Day When Experiencing Infertility

While this day means many different things to different people, if you’re experiencing infertility chances are this day is a difficult one to ignore. This holiday is a little in your face with flowers, cards, brunches and Mother’s Day presents. For women who are struggling with infertility this holiday can leave you feeling alone. Sher Fertility Institute New York shares top ways to cope:

  1. Change the meaning: Instead of focusing on the mother you wish you could be, take today to celebrate your own mother, grandmother, aunt, best friend. Whoever is the mother figure in your life, make this day about them.
  2. Unplug for the day: Social media is synonymous with trigger warnings. Remove instagram and facebook from your phone to avoid being bombarded with celebratory pictures.  Stay off your computer with social media as well.
  3. Go away for the weekend: If you can swing it, getting out of dodge for the weekend is a great way to take time for yourself. If you can’t, simply say no to the things you don’t want to do. Sometimes a staycation can be just as great.
  4. Read THIS BOOK: “For weeks, months, or maybe years, you’ve been trying for a big fat positive pregnancy test. Whether failed attempts have hurt your confidence, you’re frustrated by discouraging delays in your fertility treatment cycle, or you’ve experienced unspeakable pain, Bunless Oven will make you feel seen, understood, and supported.”
  5. Listen to THIS PODCAST: “There is nothing more fundamental to life than the desire to continue it. But while it may be the most natural thing in the world, childbirth is far from the easiest and no two fertility journeys are the same. For that reason, we are breaking from the typical podcast form. Each episode is hosted by a different voice who brings their own unique point of view to the complex and ever-changing world of infertility. Our hosts are licensed clinical social workers, patient care advocates, clinical psychiatrists, reproductive endocrinologists, real fertility patients, and others who are, in one way or another, experts in the world of fertility. We fuse narrative storytelling with experience and science to give you a new perspective on what it’s really like to go through this journey.”
  6. Watch THIS MOVIE: “Maya and Noah are a young, attractive, married couple. They are also filmmakers. After more than two years of struggling with infertility, they decided to turn the cameras on themselves. The resulting documentary captures three years of pain, disappointment, potential joy, and thousands upon thousands of dollars spent. Their own story is complimented by varying stories of others on the same high-stakes journey.”
  7. Volunteer at an animal shelter: Whether it’s the local humane society, or the SPCA getting out and walking some dogs or playing with some cats (unless you’re allergic) is a great way to take your mind off the day, while being active. Who knows, maybe you’ll leave with a fur baby!
  8. Plant a tree: Say thank you to everyone’s mother, Earth!

No matter where you are or what you’re doing, remember you are not alone. If you are looking for additional support groups or just need to talk, Contact Sher Fertility Institute New York at 646-792-7476 or click here to schedule an appointment with one of our fertility doctors. Our Patient Care Specialists will contact you within the next 24 hours.